We have been working with young single men in our capacities as educators, public figures and authors for more than 30 years.In that time, the most common question we’ve gotten from guys centers on how to increase their confidence with women.
It’s that she’s trying to express interest from a defensive posture, and she’s got a hair-trigger threat-detection system that makes her withdraw into her shell when you start pushing too hard.
Maybe you really are the good guy who won’t take advantage of her, but she has no way of knowing that when she first meets you. Think about how weird that whole situation is: to be sexually attracted to beings that could so easily do irreparable physical harm to you.
doesn’t know that: when she meets you, you could be Jack Ryan, Jack Sparrow or Jack the Ripper. Even more terrifying is the fact that, over the course of her life, the biggest threats to her You need to understand how women evaluate your qualities and how they perceive the status, danger, opportunities and threats that you could present.
The better you learn to see these things from women’s points of view, the less unattractive you will be to them and the less confused, resentful and frustrated you will be by how they respond to you.
This is their experience not just at bars and clubs, but at school and work, on the street and the subway.